One more thought.
Yes I read the last post and realize its not very good, and that my blog is really a place to kick back and lighten up. However on Tisha Baav I feel that i can be slightly more serious.
(Yes I did study today)
We are always looking to help people. Like that boy who runs around looking for a mitzva, yet knocks over an old lady and all her groceries in the process. He wants to stop, but he must "find" a mitzva.
The bais was destroyed because Jews cant get along. We couldnt get along then, and its pretty bad now. There are so many sects of judiasm its dizzying. Each sect has misconceptions about the other which leads to spite and a lack of achdus.
I try and not think about the big picture all the time. (unless it involves studying)
Just be nice.
The easiest thing you can do is smile. When you see someone you know smile at that person when you greet them. You have no idea the wonderful effect that has on a person. So many people are upset and stressed, but if you smile it eases the pain ever so slightly.
If there is someone you are having a fight with make up. I know its not so simple. These fights are usually years long, where the original reason you fought is long forgotten. And yes the other person was wrong. In fact, if you make up you might have to admit to that. Suck it up. Yes, there are some people that are not worth being friends with. You dont need to be friends. You dont need to be weird about making up. You can just admit the wrong. Who cares? Is your ego that big? Im sure you were wrong many times as well.
Finally, i beseech you to try and treat your parents and siblings as you would a stranger. With respect. This might be the hardest one of all. You do so much for them, but much of it goes unappreciated. Its very hard when they dont want to help you, or get nasty. Then you get angry, yell, and gain nothing.
Think about what your parents have done for you, all the bills they have paid, and all the protection and love they have provided for you. Think about those without parents. Think.
Sibs are tough as well. Older siblings boss you around and younger sibs seem to do nothing. Its so easy to let your frustrations out on them. In fact they do it to you as well. Suck it up. Its so easy to have "the fight". I have seen siblings when they get older have no relationship. You wouldnt even know that they grew up with each other and shared the same room. Its heartbreaking, and many times unresolvable later in life. That split second decision on your part to "suck it up" or at the very least to make up soon after might save you many years of heartbreak.
Something that helps me when confonted with an angry beliigerent person is to wonder what kind of day they had. I understand that little things do not bother people as much after they come back from the spa. Think about when your upset, and you blow off steam. that next perosn that crosses you path is toast. We dont even mean half the things we say or do out of anger.
Im only talking to myself.
(Yes I did study today)
We are always looking to help people. Like that boy who runs around looking for a mitzva, yet knocks over an old lady and all her groceries in the process. He wants to stop, but he must "find" a mitzva.
The bais was destroyed because Jews cant get along. We couldnt get along then, and its pretty bad now. There are so many sects of judiasm its dizzying. Each sect has misconceptions about the other which leads to spite and a lack of achdus.
I try and not think about the big picture all the time. (unless it involves studying)
Just be nice.
The easiest thing you can do is smile. When you see someone you know smile at that person when you greet them. You have no idea the wonderful effect that has on a person. So many people are upset and stressed, but if you smile it eases the pain ever so slightly.
If there is someone you are having a fight with make up. I know its not so simple. These fights are usually years long, where the original reason you fought is long forgotten. And yes the other person was wrong. In fact, if you make up you might have to admit to that. Suck it up. Yes, there are some people that are not worth being friends with. You dont need to be friends. You dont need to be weird about making up. You can just admit the wrong. Who cares? Is your ego that big? Im sure you were wrong many times as well.
Finally, i beseech you to try and treat your parents and siblings as you would a stranger. With respect. This might be the hardest one of all. You do so much for them, but much of it goes unappreciated. Its very hard when they dont want to help you, or get nasty. Then you get angry, yell, and gain nothing.
Think about what your parents have done for you, all the bills they have paid, and all the protection and love they have provided for you. Think about those without parents. Think.
Sibs are tough as well. Older siblings boss you around and younger sibs seem to do nothing. Its so easy to let your frustrations out on them. In fact they do it to you as well. Suck it up. Its so easy to have "the fight". I have seen siblings when they get older have no relationship. You wouldnt even know that they grew up with each other and shared the same room. Its heartbreaking, and many times unresolvable later in life. That split second decision on your part to "suck it up" or at the very least to make up soon after might save you many years of heartbreak.
Something that helps me when confonted with an angry beliigerent person is to wonder what kind of day they had. I understand that little things do not bother people as much after they come back from the spa. Think about when your upset, and you blow off steam. that next perosn that crosses you path is toast. We dont even mean half the things we say or do out of anger.
Im only talking to myself.
8 Comments:
Wow. Very nice post. Well thought out and thoughtful at the same time.
This definitely gave me a lot to think about. And boy, does it apply to me. Thanks for the important lessons!
is there anyone outside of chi town???
nah - we're the only ones who appreciate a little spirituality in our lives ;)
first of all your last post WAS good.. and in case your next post is gonna tell us how this post is not very good, let me preempt you by saying that this one was very very good!
too bad we need a tisha bav to remind us to be nice..
You are so begging for 15 comments. You can have them, but not on this serious post.
Nice mussar thanks, your last post was very good.
some of us are very good at sucking it up, have no problem admitting we are wrong, but when you tell that to the person you hurt, they forgot what it was all about and just aren't interested in you cause they went on with their lives. I'm actually considering making up with one girl from high school, but I feel wierd about it cause of the last girl I tried to make up with.
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